Do not play "hard to get". Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore.
At the same time, don't be an "easy catch". Girls will generally lose interest in guys who just fall into the palms of their hands. You should still present a challenge to win over, such as not constantly trying to talk to her whenever she's in your presence, don't be a "goody two-shoes" all of the time (the perfect mannered, completely friendly, always happy kind of guy), and in general try to give off an attitude like you're interested, but not completely devoted (make it obvious that you're still hanging out with friends, doing personal hobbies, etc). Devotion comes when you're actually in a relationship, before that you're just flirting. At the same time, never show any special interest in another girl. All you'll succeed in doing is either make her think you're not interested in a serious relationship (or worse, she may think you're just trying to "hook up" with any possible girl), or you'll hurt her feelings.
Don't get obsessed with her. If she's one of your prospective first romances, it's hard not to spend every waking moment thinking about her. Not only will this drive you insane, but it will make the possible rejection devastating. Continue with your normal hobbies and entertainment and hang out with your normal friends. Don't bother trying to push her completely from your mind, as you're in love, there's no on/off switch. Whenever you start thinking excessively about her, just find something to do, such as reading, watching a movie, play some video games, etc.
Hum in her presence. She might think of you whenever she hears that song. And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music. Some girls have actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like. So, it's OK not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer(s) or band(s)! Try to figure out what music you BOTH like.
Inside jokes: Start an inside joke with her! By doing this the two of you will share a secret connection that is shared between only the two of you. This will make her feel special, included and closer to you. It will also give you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. But keep in mind, if you overuse the inside joke, it could quickly go from fun to boring, so only use it when you must.
Hug her:Most girls love being hugged, (as long as you don't come off as a sleaze when you hug her). There are plently of oppurtunities to hug a girl, for example; after meetings, before and after school, if she is upset, etc. If your brave, tell her you enjoy her hugs and her company (This ought to make her feel special).
Tell her how you feel: Most girls love to share their emotions, so if you share yours with them they will greatly appreciate it. Tell her you think she is a great friend, or tell her you think she is cute. If you have a crush on a girl i'm not saying you have to tell her, but telling her simple sweet things can really impress her. Guys who share their emotions are a lot cuter then guys who do not.
Touch her: Eventually you will have to break the touch barrier, and if you already have then touch her occasionally. Do not touch her in a sensul way if she is not interested, just be friendly about it; try touching her gently on shoulder, her hand or the small of her back. Your touch can be very comforting to a girl.
Opposites attract. You may not seem to have anything in common, but do not give up on a relationship if you realize that her personality is the polar opposite of yours.
Show your funny side. A lot of women look for sense of humor in a partner. You should however be mindful of their reactions to your jokes and avoid offensive humor. Unless they like that. Find out if she likes comedy. If she watches Comedy Central or other readily-accessible comedy, find out her favorite comedian or favorite impression and try something along the same lines for her.
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